Whoa this question: “ When I look at the people I love, do I see them as human, or am I asking them to occupy the place of God?” is so profound! Thanks for writing 🤎
this is so relatable. i have a similar relationship with my father, though i’d say we have found a little bit balance that can only come through distance.
Thank you so much for reading Anya🤍. It’s good to hear you both have some balance! My dad and I are quite similar, so we can subtly clash at times. Distance works best for us also. It has improved the quality of our relationship
I’ve been thinking along vaguely similar lines. When I meet somebody new, I tend to valorise them as having unblemished perfection, somehow untroubled by life and immensely popular and accomplished. From there, it’s inevitable that they daily lose some of their shine, the polish tarnished, their status eroded, but it takes a long time for me to consider them “ordinary, like me”. All of this is probably down to my own self-esteem issues.
Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts, Ian. I also resonate with referring to myself as "ordinary" in this context, and I had to really think about why that was: why I held others in higher regard than I did myself.
I found this topic so fascinating to write about because I think it can be explored in several ways. Exploring the habit of idealization can reveal so much about us: insecurities, a fear of being seen and known, a fear of vulnerability and inclination towards emotional distance, or even a need for control. It's these reflections that bring us closer to knowing ourselves more deeply, so that we can in turn see others more clearly.
Whoa this question: “ When I look at the people I love, do I see them as human, or am I asking them to occupy the place of God?” is so profound! Thanks for writing 🤎
Thank you for reading Deziré!🤍
i love the way you think - i really do hope to read more from you x
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! 🥰🥰
this is so relatable. i have a similar relationship with my father, though i’d say we have found a little bit balance that can only come through distance.
Thank you so much for reading Anya🤍. It’s good to hear you both have some balance! My dad and I are quite similar, so we can subtly clash at times. Distance works best for us also. It has improved the quality of our relationship
I’ve been thinking along vaguely similar lines. When I meet somebody new, I tend to valorise them as having unblemished perfection, somehow untroubled by life and immensely popular and accomplished. From there, it’s inevitable that they daily lose some of their shine, the polish tarnished, their status eroded, but it takes a long time for me to consider them “ordinary, like me”. All of this is probably down to my own self-esteem issues.
Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts, Ian. I also resonate with referring to myself as "ordinary" in this context, and I had to really think about why that was: why I held others in higher regard than I did myself.
I found this topic so fascinating to write about because I think it can be explored in several ways. Exploring the habit of idealization can reveal so much about us: insecurities, a fear of being seen and known, a fear of vulnerability and inclination towards emotional distance, or even a need for control. It's these reflections that bring us closer to knowing ourselves more deeply, so that we can in turn see others more clearly.